Q11: What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?
If you've been reading my blog for a while, you already know that I'm what I call 'diapersexual'.
Diapers were involved in 100% of my masturbatory experiences growing up and, before I realized it, I was unable to achieve ejaculation without a diaper on.
I've given head a few times through the years, but receiving head is a fool's errand, as each of the people who have tried have found. I actually fell asleep during a blowjob once - big mistake lol - but damn, it was taking hours. And while I appreciated his efforts - and he was really trying - I had warned him that nothing was going to (ahem) come of it. As awful as I felt, I know my penis pretty well...
Being diapersexual has its advantages - it's 100% safe, for example, and when done correctly it feels amazing. But it also has its drawbacks. Try explaining to an adorable vanilla boy that, after you finish getting him off, he just needs to lay still while you hump the shit out of a diaper. It's a conversation that could easily go awry - I've been mostly lucky, to be honest.
If I could go back and do adolescence over again I might try jerking off in more traditional ways. I believe that the majority of us who are 100%'ers - the diapersexuals of our community lol - become that way in part because we become so accustomed to jerking off in our diapers that, at some point, it becomes hard-wired into our brains. That's what happened to me, anyway.
It means that the majority of my sexual experiences, and 100% of any serious relationships, will be with people within our community. The only people who understand me and this side of myself.
As you'll see from the answers below - and the #WhyABDL Survey results I'll be posting in the near future - some of us share my experiences, and some of us have a very different outlook on things.
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ABenjaminButton
24, New York USA & Italy | March 14, 2018
It was a big fear of mine for awhile that I would not be able to have a relationship with someone that didn’t incorporate diapers, because I never watched normal gay porn and couldn’t bring myself to think about anything but diapers when I masturbated. Luckily for me that all changed when I had my first real sexual relationship with a boy in my fraternity. Ironically he was my little as I was the upperclassman “big” assigned to him as a mentor for his first year at college. (We would eventually coin the term “bigcest” as we were the first known gay couple to come out of my fraternity’s big little system) Despite being his big, he taught me basically everything I know about gay sex and being romantic outside of an AB/DL scenario. It’s very much a mind game teaching your brain to be turned on by more than one fantasy, especially when the AB/DL one works fairly consistently, but I want to someday have a relationship with someone where being AB/DL is just a facet of a dynamic sexual relationship where we are both able to cater to each other’s specific fantasies. [READ MORE]
BabySidekick
23 New Hampshire USA | April 4, 2018
For a long time i thought diapers were just sex, but that's not it at all. I've learned that yes diaper boys can be very attractive and yes sometimes boners happen but to me abdl and diapers isn't a sex thing. It's taken me a long time to realize that when i was younger it was doing something i knew i probably shouldn't have been doing and breaking the rules that got me excited not the diapers themselves. Diapers seemed to be 80% of my arousal but now that i am more aware of how i work id say its only 15% not that i wouldn't do anything with another abdl if we had that kind of relationship but its not what gets me going. Padded buts are great and all but i prefer to keep abdl and sex separate .
Little Skywalker
23 San Francisco CA USA | April 2, 2018
0-5%. Which is why I pretty much ignore all the messages and asks I get that are just like “i’m horny.” That’s nice. I think there’s a large majority of abdls/littles who use diapers to feel safe and comfy. Everyone likes to get off now and again, but honestly, that sort of thing isn’t really for me. [READ MORE]
DiaperBoyAres
24, The Netherlands | January 11, 2018
When I got a boyfriend I found out that I didn’t need diapers that much for sexual activities as I would have thought. The more I wear them, the less sexual it all gets. If I only wear one diaper a week… it won’t be taken off before a certain climax is reached. But I’ve also had some moments where I did wear 24/7 for some days straight. That made it really less sexual.
Sometimes I like to wear my chastity cage, so that I won’t do any naughty stuff in my diaper. Because that’s not what little boys do right? [READ MORE]
KineseCD
20, Amsterdam, The Netherlands | April 15, 2017
I rarely ever find much arousal in porn, so whenever I do masturbate it's all on imagination. I do tend to reach for diaper related fantasies in those cases almost every time and on a practical side, masturbation happens either when I'm in a diaper or with a towel folded up in my underwear to facilitate as a 'sperm diaper', to phrase it as creepily as possible. I may have gone into too much detail already xD [READ MORE]
ATwinkyToddler
21, Pacific Northwest USA | March 4, 2017
95%. I really hated myself for awhile because I can rarely get off without thinking about diapers. Hell, if I'm having sex with someone I have to think about diapers just to get off. You can imagine the problems that caused with dating someone who is vanilla. I've accepted it as just the way things are.
I'm not very big on sex to be honest. ABDL is mostly non-sexual for me, but if I get sexual, diapers have to be involved, if that makes any sense. [READ MORE]
James aka APaddedGuyJ
24, Wiltshire, United Kingdom | February 19, 2018
As a teenager must of my masturbation involved nappies, either physically or mentally. As Ive got older not so much, the ‘little’ side of me has grown a lot recently so nappies are more a comfort\security thing now rather than a sexual thing, that said I do still have the odd fantasy about them. Ive never incorporated them into sexual activities with others, partly out of a fear of admitting I like them to a potential partner. [READ MORE]
Baby L
Midwest USA | May 1, 2012
It has changed as I age, now about 70/30, but hoping to get a way from it more. It has caused problems for me, because any sexual release presents the opportunity to relive some of my childhood trauma, and I don't want to identify that with diapers. [READ MORE]
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CrinklyConnor
23 Wichita KS USA | February 23, 2019
I would say 100% of the time I’m either wearing or thinking about diapers and such when masturbating. I’m not a very sexual person however, so this happens infrequently. [READ MORE]
DLChubbyBabyPDX
41 Portland, OR USA | November 22, 2016
Usually sex comes at the end, or when I'm not feeling little but still in my nappy. I can't explain it. It's just when I'm in little mode, sex isn't something I think about. Although I can be hard in my diaper from being so content. [READ MORE]
Denoteboom13
25 Indianapolis, IN USA | October 26, 2018
This is an odd question for me. I'm asexual, so sex is more of an as-needed thing when requested by my husband, and even then I often throw some kind of toy at him and tell him to let me go back to sleep. Sex is either uncomfortable or unsatisfying depending on the position, but incorporating diapers at least makes it tolerable. The husband usually allows it but he'll complain if he doesn't get some diaperless alone time every once in a while. Masturbation......it's generally only when I'm diapered but even then it's not all that often. Diapers are often sexual to me, but I guess not in a physical way? It's really hard to explain. [READ MORE]
Leon, aka DiaperMoxxi
18 Cambridgeshire, England | February 13, 2013
Well, I usually don't masturbate a lot these days, I'm usually fairly happy waking up padded (and hopefully dry) and going to bed padded. Though whenever I feel the mood, over the last year and a half it's usually all that helps me. Not only do I feel safe and comfy but when the mood arises it does really help make me feel, well, horny :P. Though I'll admit i'm more happy helping over people get off than myself, but still when that magic mood takes over, diapers always make it 100 times better. [READ MORE]
Nathan, aka Diapscort
20 Chester UK | June 4, 2012
This is difficult for me cause when im single a high percentage like 90% of my sexual activity is linked in to the life style I like to read stories and watch videos etc. and masturbate to it I also get really turned on when im wearing and love to rub my diaper and hump things until I climax. However when I’m in a relationship with someone the whole DL/AB thing falls to the side line and I enjoy being with the person and just them and sex is what I enjoy the most I may think about diapers during sex to turn me on a bit but that’s about It so when im with someone its properly like 5-10%. Although If I ever met a girl that was into this that would be a bonus. [READ MORE]
Dprderic
30 Dallas TX USA | August 25, 2012
Since I have a boyfriend who does not participate in anything diaper-related, 100% of my sex life with him does not involve diapers. However, he once fucked me while I was wearing a footed sleeper (no diaper), which was insanely hot.
Nearly all of my masturbatory activities involve at least diapers. If I don't have any diapers available, I either watch videos or read some of the wonderful stories written by other ABDLs. :) [READ MORE]
DprSteve92
23 Myrtle Beach, SC USA | January 9, 2016
I would say its 50/50 but at the same time im really not that sexual of a person. My little side is more of a comfort thing for me. [READ MORE]
Heisenberg DL
27 New York, NY USA | May 12, 2017
All of them, i guess in a sense it has caused me to not have sex but i have had the best experiences in my entire life in a diaper, i feel that it will continue on this way, but that certainly does not mean i wont meet someone one day who i will share this and have genuine loving sex with i look forward to that day and i think of it as a matter of time above all else. Problems… i wouldnt call it a problem, since when are toe curling orgasims from just rubbing the front of my diaper an issue! [READ MORE]
ThatLittleJoel
19 Wisconsin, USA | September 12, 2020
So story time, or not really story more of an anecdote. I made a decision to try and limit and separate abdl from sex. Part of it gave me an excuse if I got caught, like no this is not a sex thing it is a coping thing or something along those lines. It also gave me a way to separate it from pedophilia, which I know a lot of people would think not knowing about abdl. There is a stigma to it and I wanted to try to negate that. I see ABDL for me as an outlet to just let go and feel innocent and sex is not a part of it. Now that does not mean I have not masturbated in a diaper, I have, but I try not to do that as it makes me feel gross after.
LittleBoyJakey
21 Richmond, VA | November 13, 2020
Diapers are definitely not required for me to have sex, however they’re not removed entirely from the bedroom activities, they have been incorporated a few times but they’re by no means a necessity. HOWEVER, masturbation is pretty much exclusive to diapers for me. Simply put its convenient and a magic wand on a soggy diaper is just stimulation heaven.
LittleXan
28 Southeast England | March 7, 2019
Well I masturbate a lot, once or twice a day. If im alone. If I am padded, then I will usually masturbate at some point in the day. But if im not, then the porn I sway to, will probably involve diapers or ABDL in some way. I dont really get any problems, it keeps me satisfied and my boyfriend isnt as sexual as me. [READ MORE]
Jeffy
22 Austin Texas USA | February 9, 2013
100% I find it hard to summon the motivation to masturbate without being regressed for some long amount of time, and most of the time an orgasm ruins any and all sort of ABDL desires I have for at least a couple hours, so unless I plan on going to sleep at night, or waking up early in the morning to do something “grown up”, I’ll masturbate in order to get myself marginally back into adult headspace. It’s a functioning mechanism at this point. [READ MORE]
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Kita Sparkles
June 5, 2018
I am a virgin. I aim to be one until such time as I get married, if I ever do. Since I've made it this long, I really don't see that being too very hard anymore. But at any rate, I guess that means I see them as separate things. [READ MORE]
Kyleman93/DiaperedRebel
26 Saint Louis MO USA | February 1, 2019
Any and all masturbation has to occur in diapers and I have never been able to achieve a orgasm outside of a diaper. [READ MORE]
LBPrince99
19 Atlanta GA USA | December 7, 2018
A solid 65% of my intimate time incorporates diapers. However, with my sexual life, I can be indifferent when I’m intimate with someone else. [READ MORE]
Chuck aka LittleBoyC
23 Kansas | December 13, 2014
I'd say its about a 50/50 at first it was a lot more but now i can have fun sexual experiences without diapers! [READ MORE]
Littleguyau
35 Melbourne, Victoria Australia | November 4, 2018
Definitely edging closer and closer to 100%. In my early 20's, I guess my libido was indiscriminate about how I got my rocks off, and really enjoyed vanilla sex with a few individuals. I'm demisexual (unable to enjoy sex without first forming a bond) so that has limited my exploration regarding the need for paraphilia during sex of late. [READ MORE]
Little Joshy
20 Suburban Philadelphia, PA USA | January 5, 2016
Diapers are involved in around 30% of my masturbating. I'm still a virgin so I haven't had the chance to have sex in diapers yet. That's something I would love to do though. [READ MORE]
Lorenzo
21 Ohio USA | January 17, 2017
Cant really think of a percentage but i guess maybe 90%. I really like messing my diapers, sometimes i love doing enemas, and those challenges like the banana challenge and marshmallow. Also love using my magic wand on my diaper. Feels really good. Its also super fun rubbing diapers against each other to with my diaper friends. I love just sitting in my mushy diaper feels so nice. [READ MORE]
LT
22 Virginia USA | February 6, 2013
I will jack off in diapers, but not because the diapers themselves are sexual to me. When I jack off in diapers, it's only because diapers are what I'm wearing at that time. So I wouldn't say that it causes me any problems. [READ MORE]
Min
33 Colorado Springs CO USA | November 15, 2016
It used to be about 50/50, lately though when I'm in little space I don't think of sex much, unless there is some type of BDSM/punishment involved, then my mind pretty much goes straight to having sex. [READ MORE]
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OneFitStoner420
28 Providence RI USA | June 10, 2018
Before I let my little side out I was completely DL and would get off two or three times a day to the thought of being diapered but now it's more therapeutic than sexual. [READ MORE]
Pacifires
26 Alabama USA | March 4, 2019
That's a tough thing to quantify I think. I suppose it depends on to what extent you consider it incorporation. I definitely get a sexual surge from wearing and seeing others wearing diapers, but I don't really have any interest in using them for sexual activity in any form. I watch regular old gay porn for the most part. I have (mostly) vanilla sex with my boyfriend. And sometimes I get off to pictures of cute guys wearing diapers. It's not something that's necessary for me or something I do more than a small percentage of the time. I'll guess something like 10-15% of my solo sessions involve pictures or videos of diaper-related material. [READ MORE]
PaddedCrinkles
33 Phoenix AZ USA | April 14, 2019
At this point in my life, sexual activity is probably about 50% diaper related. The rest can range from vanilla gay sex to complete incorporation of my husbands kinks.
Rarely do I masturbate, but when that's the case it's highly likely a diaper is involved. I do not feel this has caused any problems in my life or marriage. We try hard to both be good communicators and let the other know what we're craving, and we both understand there must be balance of kinks. I am the one who tends to have the higher sex drive, so my husband usually couldn't care less if I choose to masturbate without him. And sometimes a long period of being 24/7 will really lower my sex drive.
Padded-DJ
27 New Orleans LA USA | June 3, 2018
I have never had sex involving diapers, sad to say, although since venturing out publicly, I am entirely comfortable with the idea now and have several friends in the community.
I cannot really get off without diapers/pee and it has caused a lot of problems for me dating to the point where I stopped trying for a long time.
I started dating a guy in December 2017 and he broke up with me in March for various reasons (we are still on good terms) but I feel as though me not being able to provide much to the table sexually was a large proponent. He was a cutie but oh so vanilla. [READ MORE]
Pup Artemis
27 San Fransisco CA USA | October 16, 2018
Ehh 40-45%. Well I do get excited by the thought of another guy in diapers and putting him in them it’s mostly me wanting to care for and take care of someone.
I’ll do sexual stuff with guys in diapers that ranges from just letting them grind against me well wet and teasing them. And I do enjoy the humiliation aspect of taking away control.
Diapers are msotly sexual for me when they involve me getting put in them by a dom. It’s them saying “I am in control now and you need to listen” and is one of my biggest subby triggers.
That said I also don’t have to be sexual in diapers. When I mosh in a diaper it’s just a part of me. I get called and call myself The Little Alpha (it was my old packs nickname for me and it stuck) for just that reason. I’m a little puppy who has some big shoes he tries to fill and wants to take care of everyone and also be taken care of. [READ MORE]
PupKeno
25 New York, NY USA | August 2, 2018
Probably 60% of my sexual activities are around my attraction to diapers. I wish there was more diaper porn for the gay abdl member, but hey gotta appreciate what you can find. But, in most cases it’s not needed in the bedroom when I’m having intimate moments with a partner. But I would love to involve one day. [READ MORE]
Ronikat
18 San Diego, CA USA | August 18, 2012
Percentage wise I'm not too sure lol…. some of my sex life does involve diapers, and i do have a lot of diaper fantasies….so id say maybe like, 40%. It doesn't really cause any problems, i can still have sex without diapers being involved with no issues, but diapers always make it more fun hehe. [READ MORE]
Paul Rulof aka RuleOfThree
33 Chicago IL USA | May 22, 2013
The amount that I use diapers right now is actually fairly small, less than 5%. This number fluctuates though. When I was in a previous caregiving profession, it went down to nothing. Once I left that position, the desires increased again. Nope, no problems or issues experienced. [READ MORE]
Rvrse
23 North Carolina | May 21, 2012
About 20%. I do masturbate about diapers, but I don’t use them for sex. Diapers are more of an aphrodisiac for me. For instance, I’ll wear a diaper or diaper someone else. During this time, I get really turned on and then I want to have sex. The diaper comes off and then it’s sexy time. [READ MORE]
SDKBoi
24 Destin, FL USA | February 3, 2019
I would say all activities have to incorporate diapers for me other then when me and my partner are making love. I reserve that time for him without diapers. Any other time I almost have to have a diaper on that’s wet and soggy for me to be able to make stickies. It has caused some problems in the past and even ended a 2 year relationship. But after that I was able to realize if I’m not doing what I want to get off sexually then why do it at all? [READ MORE]
Shadow
28 Austin TX USA | February 9, 2019
I would say around 80% involves diapers. Whether with someone, or by myself. And even if I’m not wearing, I’m thinking about them. I will say, there have been several encounters with other guys that didn’t know about my interests in diapers, that I have kinda started thinking about diaper stuff with the guy to get things moving along... I do think that a future partner would absolutely need to indulge me in the fetish side of it, if not the entire lifestyle. [READ MORE]
StrengthOfTurningTides
22 Shropshire UK | June 19, 2018
Around 55%. I wouldn't say I was completely dependant on ABDL content to satisfy my sexual urges. I think it would be a pretty unhealthy way to be if you needed it that much but that's just my opinion. It's not caused problems for me but in regards to partners; yes, sometimes with conflict of interests. [READ MORE]
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TeddyNhislittle
22 Chicago IL USA | February 9, 2019
I'd say I'm 50/50 sexual activity can happen without diapers but it take a bit longer to finish and I find it more fun with them included. [READ MORE]
ThePaddedProfessional
26 Philadelphia PA USA | January 29, 2012
Probably like 25%....hasn't caused a problem yet. [READ MORE]
ToddlerBoiCharlie
19 Charlotte, NC USA | October 31, 2012
Well much to my dismay I am still a virgin and so my sexual activity with others...well is non-existent to current.
But as for masturbation...well that is a whole other ball game right there.
I do masturbate for sure and I would say that its safe to say that 85% of the time that I am, I am thinking about a diaper related scenario.
Now I am not strictly interested in diaper related scenarios, and honestly my diaper interest are mostly non-sexual. But I have that wild teenage mind and spirit, so I tend to get a little excited and creative with it.
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Welshdiaper
24 Wales UK | May 8, 2015
Sexual activity, as mentioned with my ex, was minimalistic, but happily added into the bedroom. Probably about 10% of our activities included it in some form or another. Masturbation whilst wearing is rare for me, as being little drives out all my sexual desires, but seeing women and men in diapers when masturbating is a solid 90+% marker. [READ MORE]
Zac
21 New Jersey USA | April 30, 2012
I won't even lie it is a pretty big % lol. Usually masturbation only really involves diapers now. I like to do it while I'm padded or when I am changing. Usually it is what gets me excited, but also diapers are involved a lot of the time during sex with the bf also. Don't really have any problem with it minus the diaper stuff that sometimes gets all over the place if there is a diaper blow out lol. [READ MORE]
