DO A Q&A

ABenjaminButton

24, New York USA & Italy | March 14, 2018

Dating-wise I have a terrible history of falling in love with my straight best friends, which never ends well. Over the past few years I’ve started to make a conscious effort to devote more of my time to people who more closely line up with my sexuality. This thinking spills a little bit into how I balance time between my vanilla and kink friends. Romance aside, I feel an obligation to make myself available to meeting up with other AB/DL people especially while I’m traveling because I have learned now from experience that making a real life connection with someone who shares this fetish has huge benefits to self-esteem and self-confidence on both sides. All that said, I’ve experimented a bit letting my AB/DL life mesh slightly with my vanilla life. Most notably between my gay friends who I want to discuss my dating life with but not have to concoct some elaborate lie how me and a person of interest didn’t meet though an AB/DL party or our Tumblrs. I know it’s not the same situation for everyone, but personally speaking, telling my best vanilla friends about being AB/DL added this really special depth to our friendship where they then became open about things they wouldn’t have shared before. For example, I found out one of my friends who grew up in a very conservative Christian family had a very secretly kept BDSM life of his own, that for the first time in his life he was able to talk about with another person outside of the scene. [READ MORE] 

BabySidekick

23 New Hampshire USA | April 4, 2018

This has not negatively affected my social life, if anything it has made me more social. trying to find people who are like me to be friends with, and inspiring the sneaky lurkers to come out about it is what i love posting on my tumblr. I hope someone unknowing abdl stumbles on my blog and finds the wealth of this community like i did when i was 17. [READ MORE] 

DiaperBoyAres

24, The Netherlands | January 11, 2018

I keep everything very secret from my ‘normal’ friends and family. I don’t see the added value for me if they would know about my secret. When it comes to dating (I’m single right now), I do look for people who would accept my ABDL-side. I think you have to give and take in every relationship. The minimum I demand is ‘acceptance’. Hiding things and having such secrets just wouldn’t work for me. I have had one relationship so far. He accepted my little side. I could wear a diaper every now and then and he would call me baby. I think that worked for both of us.

But who knows, maybe my next relationship will be with someone within the scene.

This fetish actually has been an enrichment for my social life. I had found other ABDL’s on the internet, I had my adult diapers, but it wasn’t enough. I imagined myself being 50 years old, sitting alone in a room, wearing nothing but a wet diaper. It was a rather sad looking image. 

Also I kinda had this urge to talk with other people about my ABDL-side. Not online, but in real life. It was super scary, but I decided to visit an ABDL-meeting, not really knowing what to expect.

In the beginning I was overwhelmed by seeing all these, way older, people wearing nothing but a diaper. The first hour or so I just sat at the bar sipping some coke through a straw. Later that evening I had some nice conversations with different people. In the end I had a pretty good evening there, I just felt like I was missing some company.

So I decided to meet some boys from around my age who were into ABDL as well. And that was one of the best decisions in my life. They were just normal guys like me, having this same weird ABDL-thingy. With a group of 4 I visited this ABDL-meeting again, which was really awesome! 

This group of friends has grown larger and larger over time. In general I visit at least one public ABDL meeting a month. I have made many awesome friends within this community. I lost count on how many awesome people I have met in total. 

And these friendships are about more than just ‘ABDL’. Of course we have our private ABDL-parties, but I have also visited a theme park with some, went out for dinner multiple times, met after a breakup for support, all without being diapered. So I think it has greatly improved my social life. [READ MORE]

KineseCD

20, Amsterdam, The Netherlands | April 15, 2017 

In the last eight months (when I started going to ABDL parties) I have made tons of friends and met people that I respect immensely and I talk to them more than I talk to the friends I already had before all this. That is one very clear effect on my social life. I've also told a few friends about this side of me over the years, all of them responding with varying degrees of understanding and positivity. It has helped me get closer to most of the people I've told as the way I use this information makes it a sign of great trust when I tell someone. I have gone on one date with someone I met through this interest but I haven't really 'dated' anyone I met through it. I've been in one long term relationship in my life and I have told her, although a bit late into the relationship, after more than a year. Her response was, in hindsight, probably the least positive one I've gotten. She did her best to not show it, but I don't think she was very happy to hear the story. We never did anything related to ABDL and barely ever talked about it again before we broke up less than a year later. Apart from that, I haven't told any dates. [READ MORE] 

ATwinkyToddler

21, Pacific Northwest USA | March 4, 2017

It hasn't really affected my social life. I don't live an intense, far-off-baseline lifestyle that causes me to be detached from normality, which is a very important thing. You can't have your entire life revolve around a sexual/non sexual fetish, it's just unhealthy. I've seen some who want to live in a fantasy world where they have a mommy or daddy take care of them, and they live a carefree life. One, in my opinion I find that extremely unhealthy, and two, at the end of the day, I absolutely love being an independent adult. I get immense satisfaction from shaping my life the way I want it.  

Because of this, I have had the opportunity to get myself a crib custom made, make my room a cute little nursery, and other nice things. Only my room is babyish, but my apartment looks like a nicely kept 20-something year old den. I keep my place clean, work hard, play later.  

As for dating, I had no issues picking up guys, meeting for dates, having a decent conversation, but I've always been missing something. It's like a secret you wanna share but can't. I've come to realize that being an ABDL is a big part of me, and while I have met some great people, I just couldn't do the relationship. I was too afraid of telling them what I liked. That's where FetLife helped me. I met an amazing guy who shares the same interests that I do.  

A very important thing to note is, you can't just date someone because they share a fetish with you. You have to obviously get along, you know, the whole regular stuff that also goes into a relationship. I'm sure there are people out there who said “Screw it” and dated someone anyways even if they had little in common, or were generally incompatible otherwise. It can be tempting, but thanks to the internet, it makes it a lot easier to meet people. [READ MORE] 

ABToddler

San Diego, CA USA | March 11, 2019 

In internet land I keep my spiritual work, and research projects mostly separate. Outside of that I refuse to live a life where I am forced in any capacity to down play my little (aside from around my mother) but all the people I know because of daddy, all the people he brings to the house both champ and I are in diapers. I don’t have to hide it, all my doctors  know, my employees are aware of it, and me being a little, but then as an adult store owner I own my interests, only occasionally with old friends come by and shop, or those random customers who come in crinkling away, its super cute to see. But yea, everything I do has the lens of being a little. So if it doesn’t interact with my not compromising for my anxiety, health, and need for cuddles from daddy and big brother, I don’t mind if anyone knows my lifestyle. It’s helped to keep me alive, to look for the good in people, to love the lessons I learned from my little pony, and the many anime we all watch as a family. To this end I am always looking forward to making the most of the opportunities to balance my little with the work I need to do. But with the limitations of my mobility and such it does make it a challenge. So it is not so much an easier path, but the best thing I can strive for in order to overcome the terrible parts of my disabilities.

James aka APaddedGuyJ

24, Wiltshire, United Kingdom | February 19, 2018 

It’s made things difficult, especially with dating. The social life aspect isn’t to bad as I’ve kept the two separate and don’t tell my friends about it. But that’s not something you can really do from a prospective partner.. sooner or later you have to tell them.. Out of fear of this and how they’d react I’ve always struggled to let people get too close or really get to know me, which as you can imagine makes dating difficult. [READ MORE] 

Baby Mickey

25, Oregon USA | May 23, 2012 

It use to effect things for me like nothing else. I never wanted anyone to know as I always thought there was something wrong with me. I never told anyone until I got engaged at one point and I thought she needed to know. She was perfectly cool with it and even started to become my mommy. Things were great until we broke up (non-AB/DL related reasons). Then I was back to being on my own again to do my baby things. I went from having my diapers in a drawer to hiding them deep in my closet again. I never tried to date anyone in the AB/DL world as there never seemed to be anyone around me. At one point though I became ok with myself enough to admit I needed them, this was ok, and that it didn't matter what others thought. I worked as a flight attendant for a few years and would wear while wearing (who wants to use an airplane bathroom) and would carry a bunch with me in my bag for layovers. Several years later I got engaged again and I knew I had to tell her. I was so afraid of what she might say but I knew I needed to tell her. She was surprisingly cool with it and even told her mom. Which scared me since I didn't know what to expect. Her mom didn't care at all and has actually helped me in a few ways. My now mother-in-law has actually purchased diapers for me a few times when money was short, and is even helping me make a onesie. I'm hoping to open my own online AB clothing store and my mother-in-law is helping me with that as well. My wife has become my mommy, and even expanded a bit into being a sister for Baby Mickey though she doesn't wear at all. Overall things have definitely gotten to be very good. We now have a 6 ½ month old son who we keep this from completely. Though sometimes when we buy something new for our son, Baby Mickey gets jealous and we have to buy two... lol. [READ MORE] 

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Brad

26, Jonesborough, Tennessee USA | September 9, 2017 

It made things really awkward dating and socially if I was wearing I was always afraid of being found out. Still do from time to time. My wonderful wife to be loves me for the diaper boy I am and I love her so much for that. I hope married life doesn't change us from that. Parenting scares me especially in my diapered life. Not sure if I'll be wearing then. Just something I haven't quite figured out how to do diapers and my actual kids. [READ MORE] 

Caliboy557

31 Los Angeles, CA, USA | September 25, 2018 

Initially it didn’t really affect my dating life because I kept it secret.  I told my long time partner about 3-4 years into our relationship.  He took it… ok.  He was initially pretty confused, but I showed him some resources and explained more and he sort of got it.  We’ve been together for over 10 years now, and he still doesn’t fully understand why I like it, but does get the comfort and anxiety reduction from OAB.  Socially, I haven’t really told anyone else other than ABDL friends obviously.  Last year 2 of my close friends found out.  Instagram is terrible, I highly recommend anyone looking to keep this private get off of it with anything ABDL related. Basically Instagram matched my ABDL profile to my vanilla FB page since I had both apps on my phone. They were completely disconnected.  Fake name, fake e-mail, fake TN, but FB owns instagram, and doesn’t care about privacy, so they still blasted all my FB friends with an “Invite” to check out my “New Instagram Page”.  Luckily it was private, so nobody saw anything, except for my close friend who did some sleuthing and did a Tumblr search for my username, which was the same.  They made a big deal about it, but did do some research beforehand to sort of understand it.  We had a conversation about it and I explained that I wore for OAB, but found the ABDL community comforting, because it made me feel more normal.  We’re still friends and it hasn’t come up again.  I still wear around them constantly. [READ MORE] 

Calidiaperboy91

27 Southern California | August 23, 2018 

My married life is great. Going on two years in a happy marriage with a guy who full accepts me. I told my husband before we got married and he kind of freaked out. However I explained to him what this means to me and how it helps me as a person. He has learned more about it and even tried wearing a few times. It is not his thing but he always encourages me to be in a diaper as it really makes me happy and he loves seeing me happy. As for my social life I have a very vanilla set of friends that do not know of this kink. [READ MORE] 

Champ

29 Monterey, CA USA | April 3, 2015 

I'm single now, but actually socially it's gone very well.  I've told 10 non ABDL friends to date and nobody seems to think it's a big deal.  Sometimes I emphasize the little or diaper part of it when I tell people and in a way, the AB side of it is the most releatable.  I'd enjoy cuddling with my plush and sucking my paci even if I didn't have this fetish.  After all, almost everyone did it when they were little, and those feelings don't go away just because you've grown a little bigger.  Responses have ranged from indifference to certain friends actually incorporating diapers into our sexual life.  Also, a lot of them just think all this is just super cute.  Especially girls... one friend actually used a photo of me diapered and cuddling my plushie as her phone's wallpaper! [READ MORE] 

Joshy aka ChooChooBaby

33 Buffalo, NY USA | July 2, 2015

Early on, it use to make me hesitant to date someone because I'd eventually have to explain it to them and I wasn't fully sure I understood it enough to know how much of a part of me it is. Today, it's not the limiting factor in my social life, and I'd be happy to explain it to anyone who asked. [READ MORE] 

Crinklestar aka RobbiexRainbow

19 Archdale, NC | April 28, 2012 

I’m rather open about my fetish. Most of my friends know and most of them don’t care. Somewhat like my mom – so long as they don’t have to see it, it doesn’t bother them. As for dating, I actually used it as a way to weed out people that I didn’t find good enough for me. Although infantilism isn’t the main focus of my life, it is an important part of it. [READ MORE] 

DBCayden

23 Dallas, TX USA | December 2, 2015 

I have a boyfriend that I've been with for 6 years and even though he says he's ok with it, I really feel like he just tolerates it. Neither of my roomies are really into ABDL, but surprisingly enough they've both worn with me one or twice (just to be nice and try new things). 

ABDL doesn't really affect my social life too extensively. I wear diapers all the time when I'm out and about and it's never kept me from doing anything I wouldn't normally do. I've never been a HUGE fan of exhibitionism like some people in the community, but I'm not opposed to a little bit of diaper peeking over the waistband of my pants :p Quite a few of my friends know and honestly no one has ever cared. It's just one more part of me. [READ MORE] 

KinkyDude93

23 Miami, FL USA | November 9, 2016 

Same as my last response really. I used to lock myself in my room and be super unproductive. I still do it from time to time just not as bad as before. If I have plans, I go out. If I don’t, I try to pamp up. [READ MORE] 

Denoteboom13

25 Indianapolis, IN USA | October 26, 2018 

I'm not sure that it has. I'm diapered during most social outings but that hasn't affected anything. Only once did people find out that I was diapered and it was after I told them, and even then most people didn't believe me! They were arguing about whether or not I was wearing a diaper! Back when I was dating I never brought diapers into it or wore on dates. Get to know someone first, then introduce the fetish and see if they stay. [READ MORE] 

Leon, aka DiaperMoxxi

18 Cambridgeshire, England | February 13, 2013

Well my first and only boyfriend never knew about it, but I remember the fondest memories I had with him were when I was really sleepy and just fell asleep on a sofa or something and him carrying up to my room. It just made me feel amazingly happy when I was half awake realising what was happening. Same when we were watching things together and because he knew I was really subby anyway made me sit on his lap to watch it. It's really influenced me a lot to loving sitting on laps and getting/giving cuddles :P it's the best feeling in the world to me really. [READ MORE] 

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DiaperWhiz

28 Brooklyn NY USA  | April 19, 2012

Not really, I would love to find a AB/DL BF but all the guys I meet from the scene aren't what I would consider boyfriend material. I feel that many guys from our scene are either too focused on diapers, or dont know how to engage me in good conversation. As a result the people I date rarely know about this fetish and I rarely meet cool DL dudes that could become something more longer term. Its strange because in NYC you would think there would be a huge DL community that we could draw from, but the people I have met are few and far between. I have met some great friends in the AB/DL scene but no boyfriends... [READ MORE] 

Dinobaby

22 Newmarket on Fergus, County Clare Ireland | February 8, 2012 *1st Q&A Ever*

It hasn't really affected  my social life as im mostly a loner and don't have many friends and they don't know about this side of my life.

I had 1 girl friend who I was in a relationship with which wasn't a sexual relationship. I told her about it she was shocked like most people she accepted me for it but never got involved with it. The most she would do is wash my baby clothes and when im putting on diaper she would get the stuff out. We would cuddle each other like most couples and she helped me mix baby formula when I decided to try it. Even though she was accepting off it I could never see the relationship going anywhere, as in order for me to be happy in a relationship id need someone to be more hands on with this side of my life or show more of an interest. [READ MORE] 

Dprderic

30 Dallas TX USA | August 25, 2012

I wouldn't say I've had a lot of boyfriends in my life. I'm rather shy and a bit awkward around hot guys. All in all, I've had three boyfriends. The first two had no idea about my fetish because I never told them and they weren't around long enough to discover it on their own. My current boyfriend found out by accident because I foolishly left RUPadded open on my laptop, so I found myself having to explain it. 

Of course, he freaked out. He's still standoffish about it all and doesn't want to participate, or see it really, but he has at least accepted it and no longer thinks I'm a pedophile.

Outside of my romantic attachments, none of my friends know, and I plan on keeping it that way. I might tell my best friends some day, but that's a long way off. [READ MORE] 

Iker Nash

29 Mexico City Mexico | September 7, 2020

My life has become so much better as I started doing lots of abdl parties and also play dates with other littles near me, I am so happy to be able to meet so many great people in the community.

Also I have found that been more honest with myself help me to gain lots of confidence and have a good equilibrium in my life, I also have fun hanging out with the colleagues I made in my professional life.

ImaginationOfABoy aka Baby Xander

20 Traveling the USA | December 26, 2015

Well, after a picture of me was mysteriously leaked from a rather specific internet search (*raises eyebrow*), word and the picture spread to everyone this particular individual knew who also knew me. Some people stopped associating with me, others seemed to get closer. I decided that if I was gonna be weird, I might as well own it and wear it proudly. However, this is such a defining trait of my character, I've ruined many relationships and snubbed out countless potential ones (with deep connections, too). I've thusly decided that, because telling my significant other would be inevitable, I will only date Daddies, since after the most intimate part of me is out on the table, I don't have to be dodgy and secretive with someone I care about. [READ MORE] 

Inky Wonky

58 Salem Oregon USA | May 4, 2012

My first marriage ended in divorce due to not telling her until our honeymoon and then I hid it for some many years, or at least I tried to. 

Being connected to DPF back in the late 80's newsletters and contact information was freely accessible to anyone desire to be in touch with others.  Late 1989, someone in South Illinois was arrested for pedophile, and in the back of his van were all these newsletters and other paraphernalia related to the topic of diapers and getting it on with young boys.  As my name and address was quite accessible back then the investigators thought it would be wise to follow up on anyone connected with DPF for fear it would lead to a ring of other pedophiles at the time I lived in NE Missouri. Someone who was an investigator and part of a regional board identified me and reported me to a regional supervisor.

I lost my job over the incident – or at least was requested to step aside from my profession until I could get my life straight.  My wife at the time and I had just adopted our daughter who turned 13 back then.  I had been in counseling to work through some personal issues as did my wife.  I was connected in with a "Survivor Support Group" as it was seen that my behaviors stemmed from issues related to physical and emotional abuse I received from my mother.

Later my wife at the time and I eventually got jobs in Oklahoma.  At that time I thought the diaper thing was over with for me, but not soo fast, it came back with a vengeance.  I rejoined DPF after finding out they had changed their policy of how people's names and address couldn't be no longer made readily available.  I began getting samples of diapers from various manufacturers of disposable diapers, but instead of coming to the house, it came to my work location, as did newsletters for DPF.  I thought it would be a way of avoiding it at home and keeping it secretive from my wife. 

Also, about the same time the internet became available to those interested in searching the worldwide web, but in the slow laborious process that it was back then.  I assisted my wife in purchasing a computer for ourselves as it was seen as a way to provide a better process of doing computer work where we were working.  I came across, in a book called "Computer for Dummies" some "newsgroups" where you can find fantasy stories of people into diapers and also pictures too of men and women wearing diapers in sexual and suggestive ways.

This lead to when we were at home using the personal computer of downloading stories onto a floppy drive and when our work made available laptop computers that, for us case managers, we had to share with at least one other person – not enough for everyone.  I slipped up and accidently left one of those stories on one of the laptops.  Before I knew it, I was suspended from work, subsequently along with other materials found in my office, they got ready to fire me, but with the assistance of an attorney was able to arrange for my own resignation.  Humiliated my wife at the time and I went to a sexual couples retreat that was supposed to assist us to work through our issues, particularly mine with my wife's.  Previous to this I had begun to receive psychological counseling along with establishment of a medication routine with a psychiatrist.  The suggestion was that maybe what would help is to participate in Sexaholics Annoymous (a 12 step program) to address my diaper issues.  I "gained sobriety" through attending and stayed away from all of this for more than a year, only to have it come back again, with a vengeance.  This time my wife could not stand it and ended up a 15 year marriage. 

Before the separation, my daughter was going through a horrible separation and eventual divorce, but before that I sat down with her and shared with her what was going on with me and why we were splitting up.  My daughter was very understanding and didn't see too much problem with it, although she made a point to tell me she didn't or want to participate in such activities, and of course neither did I want her too.

After our marriage I began to have more contact with others on the web and by that time (1999) DPF set up a website for further connection with those who chose use this as an avenue.  I purchased some ab clothing, including my first ever footed sleeper and onesie along with cloth diapers and plastic pants.  I later moved from Oklahoma back to Oregon, where I grew up.  I became an ambassador with DPF and also a "Regional Director" where I was responsible for organizing get togethers in my area.  I've done that now for many a years and have had the joy of meeting quite a few people. 

I eventually re-married, but this time I informed my bride well before our wedding but it only lasted a couple of years as she had her own issues.  She was able to accept my lifestyle and even joined in diapering me and occasionally attending some of our events that I helped to host.

Now I'm a daddy to an ab son, who is 43 yrs old and I change his diapers all day long, when we are both at home. [READ MORE] 

JamesFrost

26 Chicago Illinois USA | July 19, 2018 

I dated vanilla boys for a long time and kept my little side a secret. It really weighed on me – I couldn’t be myself and my relationships suffered because of it. Around age 20 I decided that I would only date abdl, or other kink minded boys. I always discuss my abdl lifestyle and kinks before I start dating someone now. My amazing boyfriend, PupKeegan, fully supports my little lifestyle. [READ MORE] 

JayCub

21 Omaha, Nebraska USA | January 15, 2016 

Socially it has been a mix. I seem to love every ABDL I talk to, but then i dislike the idea of talking to so many vanilla people. This fetish has really brought up myself socially because I talk to so many people with collected interests so I feel it evened itself out. I'm more social with fetishist than I am vanilla. [READ MORE] 

Jeffy

22 Austin Texas USA | February 9, 2013

I feel like I have a healthy mixture of friends who are both in and out of diapers. These also include friends that are and who are not a part of the furry fandom as well, and we all seem to inter-mingle and everything is just fine. I have 2 roommates who know who I am and what I’m all about, and they couldn’t be further away from giving a damn! It definitely helps me weed out closed-minded individuals from my friend pool, and I still engage in a fairly regular and normal social life, other than having 10 friends in the living room at once and everyone’s trying to figure out which one stunk up their pants! [READ MORE] 

Jess

24 Toronto Ontario Canada | October 25, 2012

Being social with a vast group of people is really important to me. This tendency might be one of the reasons why I’m so open about my erotic and sexual interests. Taking this into account, I also know that not everyone is totally open or even worse, says they are okay with it but when they are in my diapered presence change their mind. So, I really gotta watch out for these sorts of situations. Therefore, while I am open about my desires, I’m also cognizant that I live in a society which doesn’t speak fondly of diaper boys or even more-than-normal hairy people. [READ MORE] 

ThatLittleJoel

19 Wisconsin, USA | September 12, 2020

Socially not much. I definitely have wanted to hang out and be a part of the ABDL community in person more and more, but it is hard for me to go out and do that. I do not go out much so it is hard for me to find others who share the same interest as that. I am still growing though I still live at home with my parents and I am okay with that but eventually when I am out of college I want to go out and find people who are a part of this community. My current friends do not know nor do they really need to, I do not think it would be productive to tell them. As far as the dating scene goes, I am a single pringle, dating is not really on my mind at the moment. I, definitely, get lonely sometimes and think about how awesome it would be to have someone to share this same interest but it is not something I would actively seek out.

Kita Sparkles

June 5, 2018 

Hard to say.  I've never been married nor had sex. I was engaged once, and around the time I was going to tell her, she and her brother told me one afternoon about these weirdos they saw on Jerry Springer who wore diapers and acted like babies.  I couldn't make them understand that Springer just took the ones on the edges of a thing for sensationalism, and there were probably people they knew that were into that and they would never know unless the person told them.  I couldn't say any more without giving myself away.  We did break up but it had nothing to do with AB.   

I do have a Mommy now, but we don't have sex, and I met her BECAUSE of ABDL connections, so it wasn't really an issue there! [READ MORE] 

LBPrince99

19 Atlanta GA USA | December 7, 2018

I haven’t yet dated anyone for the sole purpose that I’m either seen as intimidating, or if we start to message; I would start to lose interest if all I get are messages and not meetups or even a date. As for my social life, I reserve my part of my lifestyle to myself and to whomever let’s me into their life (BF). [READ MORE

LittleBoyJakey

21 Richmond, VA | November 13, 2020

Before I found my fiancé, dating was an interesting minefield for me, I would start talking to people but I would never meet them because I knew that little me is a big part of who I am, and I couldn’t love someone who couldn’t love little me. All of my friends and even my coworkers know I wear diapers and that I am a little, taking this step has made my life 100% easier, no more fear and no shame about being who I am. All of my friends and coworkers were very accepting and most of them said they weren’t surprised in the slightest!   

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Chuck aka LittleBoyC

23 Kansas | December 13, 2014

It has in a sense. defiantly when trying to date and worrying that they will find out when your not ready to tell them. or wanting to go out padded with your friends but knowing that one slip and its all over. [READ MORE] 

Littleguyau35

Melbourne, Victoria Australia | November 4, 2018

I told my first bf about it after feeling a lot of pressure from him (He lived 3 hours away from me, and I was looking to meet up with a local DL - he wanted to know what my texts were about and wouldn't relent). He tried it once or twice as foreplay. Since then I've never gotten far enough for it to come up. I haven't really dated since I've gone effectively 24/7. I did tell my nurse bf in Canada (lived there for two years) and he was comfortable with it, but didn't engage too much. As for parenting - I'm happy to be the fun gay uncle. [READ MORE] 

Little Joshy

20 Suburban Philadelphia, PA USA | January 5, 2016 

It's effected my dating life in that I'm not interested in dating someone who doesn't like diapers. It's difficult but this part of me is too big not to have a boyfriend who likes it too. [READ MORE] 

Lorenzo

21 Ohio USA | January 17, 2017

Its really a part of me and who I am. Dating wise I usually tell the person even when I first talk to them about me being a little. I dont like keeping it a secret. Plus its like I want them to accept me for it and be able to maybe baby me and spend time in diapers with me. I dont force them to but at least for them to be respectful of it. SomeI met like one of my ex's that I still talk to nothing bad really happened between us just I didnt really feel the same love for him but he is still very sweet and kind. He wore for me even though he never tried. Even when I was shy to ask him if he would wear with me he said "Babe dont ever be afraid to ask me to do something. I fell in love with you and i dont want you to be scared to ask me to do anything with you". He was such a sweetheart. I cant really date people who arnt ok with it and think its weird. Its a part of who I am and I dont want to give it up. There are even some people I met who have actually tried it for me and enjoyed it . One person said "I see why you love being a little, I like it so far". Two that I met actually wet their diaper and enjoyed it.

I recently have slowly been telling my close friends about my little side. All of them are cool with it and have said they will always support me and will not judge me on what I like. I have very nice really cool friends. One of my friends who made a tumblr. I told her oh il add you on my normal tumblr, but i mostly post on my other tumblr. She asked "whats your other tumblr?". I said you know the thing im into. Shes like ohhh okay. Then she said "well you can follow me on that one to if you want, I don't mind". Im like no way this is awesome. Then one day I was looking at my notifications and it showed her following me. I sent her a message, I was like I saw your following me, just want to let you know there are pics of me in diapers and that just so you know what to expect from my blog. Shes like "its ok I don't mind". Made me so happy one of my best friends was following my blog and supporting me!! Some are super cool with me sharing what onesies i should get and what they think on my drawing art I have done. They complimented alot on my ben 10 diaper drawing i did. They liked it.      One of my best friends that like a big bro to me. I sometimes share some of my pics to see what he thinks and sometimes like to show him my new little stuff. He is super chill and very trustworthy. He said "as long as it isnt any messy or wet pics im fine with giving you advice on the pics. [READ MORE] 

LT

22 Virginia USA | February 6, 2013

Nah.. like I already explained.. I usually end up purging when I find myself in a relationship. But I don't ever let it affect my life in any way. If anything, I treat it as an enhancement to my life. It helps alleviate stress/anxiety. And as far as dating goes, I prefer being single and have been single for about two years now so it really isn't even an issue. [READ MORE] 

Mez

26 Anaheim CA USA | January 12, 2016 

Socially I felt I was only being half of myself, until I was surround by others like me. Then I was big bro teasing and causing trouble or the little who needed Daddies attention. We would be at parties or just hanging out, and we would be comparing video games on the floor with nothing but a diaper and shirt. I met a lot of cool people and they made me feel “welcomed” and normal about myself. I was shy at first about getting diaper changes but I warmed up to them. Later on with friends who were not into diapees, I would still be comfy about wearing and not feel like it was a big deal if I wore or not. Only a few friends knew about my diapees but they never stopped being my friend because it.

Dating was trickier. In college I tried to get a guy’s attention without diapees, but the second I mentioned them they disappeared. I dated one DL guy and on our first date I peed my pants several times until he noticed that my pants were soaked. After he noticed that I was soaked, he told me I need to be in diapers, *explicit details*, and we were cuddling in diapers before the night was over. 

After that I realized that I could only be happy if I could be open about my diapee and AB side. So I gave people 3 months to decide if they want to be with me; after that I would tell them all about my AB side and take the relationship to the next level. Some fled and some broke up with me over time not knowing how to handle my diapees. Every time I told them, I made sure to express that I didn’t need them to participate as long as they could accept it as a part of “me” to love. When I was serving as a boy for BDSM Dom’s I would leave it as an option if they wanted to have me in a diapee or not but I always enjoyed when they would include it. Some Dom’s even sent me home in one and made sure that it was visible or ready to be changed. I was happy anytime I could be myself with someone else. 

I found my Daddy at a furry party and we connected over messages after a while. He was into BDSM but had very little knowledge of the ABDL lifestyle. I told him about 3 weeks in about my diapees, how I like being a toddler, how I enjoyed BDSM, and that I wanted him to know that if he could accept it as a piece of me then I would promise to share more of myself with him. And he did; it has been almost 3 years now and he wants me to be 24/7, he wants to be my Daddy (and I want him to be my Daddy), he loves me for being myself and always makes me smile when I walk up to him a soggy diaper asking for a change.

My advice is to find someone who will love you for everything and makes you smile. Don’t be afraid to show them your crinkle butts. [READ MORE] 

Min

33 Colorado Springs CO USA | November 15, 2016

I've told 2 of my ex girlfriends about it around the 3 to 4 month mark, none of them took it negatively, one participated and one wouldn't, but didn't mind if I wore anytime I wanted. A few of my friends found out, mostly because of the room noone was allowed in (nursery) and a couple somehow found my Twitter, they all acted like it wasn't a big deal though. My current girlfriend was already a AB before I met her, we have also known each other for a very long time (met during our teens) I'm sure she's the one I'll be spending the rest of my life with. [READ MORE] 

NappiedMike

London UK | November 26, 2012

I prefer dating with a nappy on. Socially, I have a couple of friends who know I wear, so they're cool with it. I also have a more recent guy who wants me to wear 24/7/365 and loves to control what state I end up in ... So, all's well in that respect. [READ MORE] 

NappyBoyRyan6

UK | August 16, 2014

Defining moments in adulthood i.e. getting outed. I left my phone at work and thought nothing of it. I was getting it back in a few hours and I trusted the people in the office who had it. How wrong could I have been. A few hours later and I realised somebody had accessed my phone. An ABDL twitter account I had was flooded with derogatory messages, threats and abuse. They accessed a photo of me and sent it to others in my office.That felt like a life changing moment, had I been on my own, I think I would have killed myself. The thought of the humiliation and torment I would face at work was unbearable, but unavoidable. In the end, not a lot was said. Bar the odd name calling ‘nappyboy’, ‘Mr Pampers’, everything was ok. A couple of the females asked me numerous questions, they took quite an intrigue in it all and after a couple of in-depth conversations, it all settled down.

Then there was my housemates girlfriend. She was looking for a bedsheet and I told her where to find one of mine. Unfortunately, she decided to look in the wrong set of drawers and happened to view my entire stash of nappies, abdl stuff and changing bits. She texted me over the next few days asking me all about it and I was pleasantly surprised by her reaction. But, she turned suddenly and was on the verge of blackmailing me, thankfully nothing much came of it. They both moved out and I’ve never spoken to her since, although she has told somebody else.

From the above situations, I have learnt to be more accepting of what i’m into and not to keep things a secret from people who are close to me, because in the end, secrets always come out. So my current girlfriend, I told her before we got together. We met over the internet and in one of our early conversations I told her all about me. It was a great decision in the end, because she is very accepting of who I am and loves the involvement I let her have. She knows its a big step to let somebody in and she loves the trust I have given her. You have to love somebody who lets you be you. [READ MORE] 

Oliver

26 Rochester NY USA | July 8, 2018

Ever since college, I have always made a point to talk openly about my kinks whenever I made it past a few dates with someone new. I've known for a long time that my DL side is important and static in me and I needed a partner who was minimally accepting but preferably indulging of that side of me. My partner of 3.5 years is a DL convert and we have plenty of fun together. We got engaged a few months ago. [READ MORE] 

OneFitStoner420

28 Providence RI USA | June 10, 2018

I dated a girl when I was 22 who knew and she was interested in BDSM so we managed to play around with the power dynamic of giving her control. As of right now, my wife knows and accepts that I wear diapers but has yet to partake. [READ MORE] 

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Pacifires

26 Alabama USA | March 4, 2019

It hasn't for the most part. I mean, there's the preparation that it takes to do it comfortably 24/7. Keeping a stocked diaper bag. Stopping what I'm doing to find somewhere to change. Being discreet so as not to force it on the public or accidently reveal it to people who don't need to know.   For me, it's all about balance and being mindful of how I seek out the experiences I want. You can't let it overtake the rest of your life because, at least to me, that's unhealthy. It creates a rift between the person and normality that can do some serious damage to a life. So for the most part I'm just your average twenty-something guy. I drink. I work. I housekeep. I cook. I just happen to wear diapers instead of boxers or briefs and have a bedroom that could be mistaken for that of a kid due to all my little stuff laying around.   My boyfriend knows about and accepts this side of me. I was so scared when he almost found out the first time, but I eventually just came out and told him. It was daunting to say the least. I was expecting the worst and he surprised me. He said it wasn't his thing, that he had no interest in participating, but he didn't really care because he liked me. He still doesn't have any interest in actively engaging my little side, but there's something that feels so good about just having someone who loves you despite something that most would find appalling. He's seen me padded and in the middle of a change. He's helped me find lost pacifiers and places to change when we're out and about. He even bought me a Paw Patrol sippy cup once for my birthday.   I never thought I'd have something like that all those years ago, but here we are. Two years strong. [READ MORE] 

Padded-DJ

27 New Orleans LA USA | June 3, 2018

Ugh it has destroyed my dating life haha. Not that I have gone looking too much, but there are very few open ABDL’s around where I am from.  I actually was not all public about the lifestyle until a few months ago after my boyfriend left me. I came to the conclusion quickly that this is definitely something that is going to have to be a part of my dating life from now on. I have had a ton of positive feedback recently that has boosted my self confidence tremendously. [READ MORE] 

Pandaku

24 Fort Collins CO USA | March 24, 2016

It never really affected it, but when looking for a boyfriend, I did make sure that he was ok with me wearing and he is, been with him for 2 years so far. [READ MORE] 

Pup Artemis

27 San Fransisco CA USA | October 16, 2018

Social life it lets me know who I can keep around and who just sucks as a human being and should be cut out. I enjoy being a diaper pup and if someone doesn’t like that well kiss my grits. I advocate a lot for diaper boys and pups and everyone to be able to show up to events padded if they wish. It’s something I believe very strongly in and am constantly arguing with others about. Yes I do believe in time and place with diapers. But someone trying to tell me my diapers don’t belong in Folsom is gonna get an earful. [READ MORE] 

PupKeno

25 New York, NY USA | August 2, 2018

I’m very much open book when it comes to my dating life. I don’t like wasting my time nor anyone else’s, and if it a factor in which the guy can’t accept then it won’t work. I don’t need my bf or partner to be active or participate, but I need them to be supportive. I’m fortunate that in my long term relationships they all accepted me and had no problem seeing me padded up on the couch next then while we cuddled. There is no point in settling. Compromise is healthy, but having to change who you because your kink makes your partner uncomfortable is a big no in my book. But that’s just me. [READ MORE] 

Ronikat

18 San Diego, CA USA | August 18, 2012

Socially it started affecting me when i was still in diapers for bedwetting.  Mostly because for me to have any kind of like…sleepover, my friend or at least my friends parent had to know about me being in diapers…so i ended up just telling all of my friends.  It ended up with pretty much everyone during all my school years knowing about them, and ya i got harassed a lot about it.  So going through school was kinda hard. [READ MORE] 

Rvrse

23 North Carolina | May 21, 2012

My friends don’t know about. I’m sure they would probably understand if I mentioned I liked diapers, but I have yet to make that leap. My last boyfriend was my only partner who has known about my diaper fetish. I never told him about due to fear of rejection. I had accidentally left an AB/DL forum on my browser and of course my ex saw it. He confronted me about and I was surprised with his response; he thought it was hot! My ex was into watersports and that compliments the AB/DL lifestyle quite well. He wanted me to dress him up like a baby, pee inside his diaper and change him. That was my first experience dressing up a man in a diaper and not a stuffed animal. I was so elated; I think I was shaking a little. [READ MORE]

SDKBoi

24 Destin, FL USA | February 3, 2019

Horribly. Then again I haven’t had many relationships so it’s not much to judge off of. But the people I did choose to share with ended up outing me to a lot of people which led to me moving across the country. Since then I’ve found me a wonderful guy who accepts me for me and I will forever love him for being who he is and embracing every aspect of our lives together. [READ MORE] 

Shadow

28 Austin TX USA | February 9, 2019

It was weird when I was with my first long term boyfriend... he was very vanilla and not so into kink or fetish stuff, so I seldom ever brought any of it up. After he broke up with me, I decided I was going to me more open about it. I’ve told most of my friends and they have all been so amazing about it. They all basically have said “awww that’s so cute!” Or “ you do whatever makes you happy! That’s really no big deal”. [READ MORE

SGB

25 Eureka CA USA | September 20, 2012

I confess my kinkiness to potential partners early on in any given relationship. It's easier to find a vaguely kinky person and introduce them to the fetish than it is to find that one perfect abdl. Being kinky has encouraged me to seek kinky partners rather than dating in the vanilla crowd. As in everything social, open and frequent communication is key. I have a wife who participates in this kink and does all manner of kinky stuff of her own. We do not intend to ever have children. [READ MORE] 

StrengthOfTurningTides

22 Shropshire UK | June 19, 2018

Massively. 

I hate calling it a fetish. I'd love it to be more of a lifestyle but at the end of the day, nappies/diapers turn me on and that's that. However, I wouldn't like my partner to wear them, so I guess that makes me the baby! 

I told my ex and he wasn't into it very much. My current partner isn't either but doesn't mind me wearing around him and he occasionally changes me which is nice. 

I do often wonder whether there'd be someone out there who could suit this side of me better than him. But this one will do just fine for me as he supports me in everything else I do (the grass is always greener, blah, blah, blah). 

As for social life, I wear around friends and they've never seemed to notice and if they did, I wouldn't mind much as I'd just tell them I struggle with my continence. [READ MORE] 

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TeddyNhislittle

22 Chicago IL USA | February 9, 2019

Dating has been a bit of a challenge in some sense but at the same time I've I've never went out of my way to find someone. I am single tho and looking for a female little or switch, but like I said I'm just letting the chips fall where they may. [READ MORE] 

ThePaddedProfessional

26 Philadelphia PA USA | January 29, 2012 

Tried to date guys who have the same fetish and like to take care of me...tough to do though and i've dated guys who aren't into diapers (at least that i know of) and it sorta leaves part of me out of the relationship... [READ MORE

ToddlerBoiCharlie

19 Charlotte, NC USA | October 31, 2012

Well so far this fetish really hasn't impacted my dating life or social life too much. This mostly has to do with the fact that I am scared shitless of being exposed to my friends and family, and the implications that it could have. But my guess is that when I do eventually settle down that it will have to be with someone that can atleast allow me to wear every once in awhile without freaking out. I would not expect to end up dating and/or marrying another ABDL or Caregiver (Althought that would be the best), simply because I think that its an unrealistic goal and narrows down the fish in the sea to too few for my liking. [READ MORE] 

Welshdiaper

24 Wales UK | May 8, 2015

Very slowly, I have told almost all of my friends, the ones I trust anyway, about this side of me. One at a time, and with great hesitation. They have all been wonderful about it. My last partner was completely aware, as we were friends before getting together, and though things didn't work out between us, she indulged and actually got into this kink with me. She quite liked the innocence of being the baby, and how innocent it made me in turn. [READ MORE] 

Windman

40s South Africa | September 30, 2012   

I was in school before the internet. It was only as I was finishing up my studies that I accidently stumbled across DPF.  Looking back I was so stupid. I never knew how to set up my own private email account and came so close to being caught.  It took many years of fighting before I had my own modem and internet connection. This particular issue cost me a cracked rib and more shit, drama and tears than there was money to buy toilet paper to clean it all up with.  As fate would have it I won a biological lottery in my early twenties and my entire life changed. I was drugged out of my mind for no good reason and no one truly cared as long as they could get on with their lives.  I am not disabled but I do have a condition for which I take a pill. It is a non-issue for me and I think of it like this : some people have high blood pressure, some are allergic  to milk or eggs. It doesn’t make you weak it just makes you unique.  I do the same things tons of other people do but for years my family have been f-in around with my life and my pills. Denying me it when I knew I needed and drugging and forcing me to take extra medication because it was convenient for them and they only had their best interest at heart.  To anyone out there who feels stuck because you can’t drive, can’t find a nice job or your family has refused to let you do anything for yourself I want to say : I understand. Ditto!  Some families work but a lot of them abuse their collective power.  Don’t be ashamed because you wear diapers and are young at heart. Don’t flaunt it either but there is no need to cower your life away because society refuses to try and understand us.  Their ignorance is their issue that they will be judge for it one day. Don’t make it yours.  The expression of love and caring is the most the powerful thing that has ever existed since Adam bit into the apple. How we love has changed over the decades and will continue to change as society exchanges ideas over this young immature thing called the World Wide Web.  To those of who are younger than twenty five, time is going to fly by and you have to decide right now : who are you trying to please in life ? Society or yourself.  Diapers are a sexual private thing. Common senses says to keep it that way but don’t let society tell you what to do in the privacy of your own space behind a locked door where you are harming no one and it is none of their business in the first place.  Baby Brett was on Dr. Phil a while back and I have to say I admire his balls. I wish there more adult babies out there who know what they want and are willing to do something about it.   Mr or Mrs Right is never going to come knocking on your door to carry you away to heaven people. If you want a partner and happiness examine what is at the end of your own arms and do something to make it happen besides gabber on the websites. [READ MORE] 

Zac

21 New Jersey USA | April 30, 2012

Socially with friends I have to be a little more careful. It isn't something I blast around my friends. So usually I wear a belt all the time so my shorts/jeans don't fall down. I also sometimes wear boxers over my diaper so they don't really show. As for dating I actually have a bf that is a dl so that kind of helps matters there lol. [READ MORE] 

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