ABOUT CWIS

Cwis has been a member of the ABDL community since his college days, and an ABDL blogger since 2008, with his original Blogger blog, Abysitter: Tales from the Crib. The Blogger blog features a mixture of true stories from Cwis’s development as an ABDL, interspersed with guest entries from his readers, Q&A’s, photo contests, and more.

“My initial reason for starting my own blog was simple,” Cwis remembers. “Most of the websites utilized by ABDLs at the time were rumored to be suffering various problems - financial or otherwise - and were constantly said to be in danger of shutting down. Simply put: I didn’t want to lose the connections I had made on these websites if they went away.”

Cwis started his blog with a few stories from his past. He didn’t advertise them, but he did change his username on some of the ABDL sites to reflect the domain name he’d registered to link to the blog: Abysitter.com. Slowly, over time, readers began to visit the site.

“I wanted a space people would remember. One they might eventually find their way back to should the last of our limited online networking opportunities fold at once. So I reserved the domain name I was using for my Aby.com username at the time - Abysitter - and started a Blogger blog, pointing the domain to the blog. People would remember “Abysitter.com” if all the sites shut down, right? That’s what I was hoping, anyway…”

Some of the sites would close - DPF.com and Aby.com, and, later, RUPadded.com, among others. Others would open and take their place. But, as one of very few places ABDLs could share more than a brief blurb about themselves, Cwis’s site flourished, with photo contributions, guest stories, and more coming in from the community.

“We celebrated the blog’s millionth pageview in March 2018. It’s added an additional 400,000+ views since, with a total of 426,000 unique daily views since we started counting,” Cwis says. “Turns out remembering Abysitter.com is actually pretty easy - and once that domain became a place where people could turn for a wide variety of ABDL content, the visitors just kept coming.”

THE Q&A SERIES

In 2011 Cwis initiated the Q&A Series, a question and answer series where members of the community were invited to share their own experiences growing all the way up in diapers. To date more than 100 ABDLs have taken the time to answer his questions, with their answers helping other ABDLs still searching for answers as to why they are the way they are.

THE ‘ORIGINS OF ABDL’ SURVEY

In 2018 Cwis launched a survey, ‘Origins of ABDL’. More than 1,600 members of the ABDL community would respond, making it one of the largest surveys involving the ABDL community. Cwis notes that he’s not a professional survey developer, and that his survey has flaws; still, it gathered answers to many of the questions he and others have had for a long time…

“I was frustrated by the surveys that had been done up to that point,” he says. “Through my decade plus of blogging I’d been contacted by a number of individuals purporting to be in the midst of doing surveys of the ABDL community - they wanted help, i.e. publicity through my blog, a way to reach the community. I was all too happy to post their survey link - anything that has the potential to benefit the community gets free advertising on my site - but I was discouraged by how many of these surveys seemed to go nowhere. Several were students writing doctoral or masters-level dissertations, and they would use the data for those. Each promised to some degree to share their findings with me so that I could share them with my readers, but none ever did. Some just disappeared - project abandoned, perhaps? - and one sent a link to a paper that had to be downloaded at a significant cost.”

Cwis had been contacted by hundreds of ABDLs over nearly a decade of blogging at the time, and he saw how much struggled with guilt and shame revolving around the ABDL lifestyle.

“Most of the people doing surveys on the community were themselves non-ABDLs. Their methodology might have been spot on, but their questions came from an outsider’s perspective,” Cwis says. “I set out to create a survey that might answer the questions that I had, as well as the questions that have been posed to me, over and over, by my blog readers through the years.”

KINK EDUCATOR

Cwis has co-presented or presented at CAPCON four times.

In 2017 he teamed up with Baby Spencey to present a class on the history of the ABDL internet.

In 2018 he lead a discussion on the ‘Origins of ABDL’, where data from the survey was revealed for the first time, and discussed in detail.

In 2023 and 2024 he continued discussions about why ABDLs are the way they are, under the same class title. The content of each class differed somewhat. You can view the PowerPoint slide deck from 2024’s class at whyABDL.org/origins.

THE ‘LUVS BOAT’

In 2016 Cwis relocated to upstate New York, purchasing and moving aboard a cabin cruiser.

“It’s a monster of a boat, a 36’ 1970s-era flush deck motoryacht,” Cwis says. “I’ve always had a connection to the water, and living on a boat had been a dream of mine since I was a little kid.”